Are you hiding in plain sight? Do you use your perfect standards as an excuse to not try? Are you so focused on your failures that you don’t even show up? Thinking “Things won’t go as expected” so I’m just going to stay right where I’m comfortable. Bailing out, and failing by default.
Failing, when it’s done from the premise of “I’m trying something new” even though you might fail to meet your own expectations is something you should do more. That’s what learning is all about, trial and error.
Confidence is your willingness and ability to fail in front of others.Susanna
Making mistakes isn’t negative unless you make it so in your mind.
All it means is that you put your perfectionism aside, you put your “I-don’t-now” attitude aside and you do it anyway. You decide to figure it out. You decide to be proud of yourself because you tried!
Confidence comes from taking action even though this might mean you’ll fail!
Failure is just another word for a learning curve.
You’re learning to do better. You’re experimenting with life and seeing what fits you and what doesn’t. You only figure that out by doing which means accepting the learning curve, a.k.a. failure. ‘Cuz you won’t learn anything without making mistakes. (Althoug I do keep trying that method…).
It’s basically, embracing the growth mindset over the fixed mindset.
A fixed mindset would have you believe that whatever you’re good at is fixed. A growth mindset is more about embracing failure and believing that you can get good at anything, as long as you keep engaging in that learning curve. This doesn’t mean that you will get good at everything that you try. It mostly means that you at least believe that there’s a possibility if you take action instead of just giving up because you think that what you can and can’t do in life is a fixed thing. (To learn more, and read a way better description of this than I can give you, dive into Carol Dweck’s work.
So how did you fail epically, today? And what did you make it mean? How did you treat yourself on the other side of “failure”?
Be proud of your failures.
Focus on the lesson. Be proud of yourself for showing up! And keep showing up.
Adventure Awaits on the other side of failure, chicas! Let’s get out there and make a scene!